as I look back, Throughout my entire lifetime [25 currently]; I did not consider working on my Resilience,
I would allow myself to be easily triggered. I would allow myself to easily fall into depression, as well as I would allow myself to be demotivated, and so on.
Now, as I progressed through working on healing myself and becoming the version of myself I always wanted to be, I find ‘Resilience’ to be one of the main ‘subjects’ I am to work on within myself.
Mental and Emotional Resilience.
After all of this time, I realized that it is time to work on how I react to the world.
I realized That it is time to build Resilience.
I don’t quite know how to ‘guide’ others with doing that themselves, although I can say, in some ways, I focus more on my inner world, on how I react to things, more than focusing on the things I am to react to.
From subconsciously focusing on reacting to external occurrences, I now focus more on observing situations and my reaction itself.
As an example, instead of focusing on what ‘triggered’ me, I now focus on how I would react to that.
I find myself much more peaceful now as well as having my boundaries well met.
Being resilient and working on your Resilience [ in this context ], to me, means; reacting to things appropriately. Balancing my emotional as well as logical perspective.
Instead of allowing my emotions/mind to get out of control, I see them from a different perspective, as if I am consciously observing both.
As if I am consciousness itself, experiencing the Emotions/Mentality I currently experience from more of a ‘detached’ ‘place’ than being FULLY SUBMERGED in it.
I both am FULLY my Emotions/Mentality, although, at the same time, I am experiencing them. I Am Experiencing the Emotional/Mental state, and once I truly REALIZE that perspective and take it into ‘action’, I also REALIZE that I Am in ‘Control’ of it. Instead of it being in control of me.
In conclusion, it takes time as well as it probably takes hardships for one to properly build Resilience, I noticed some people already have it, perhaps without the Hardships, although, the way i see it, it is important to have the Empathic side as well.
It is important to be aware of how one might feel on either side of the situation before choosing the appropriate reaction.
And so, Resilience. yet, still having Compassion, Understanding, Empathy, and connection to the situation. being fully one with the situation at hand, yet, experiencing it from a ‘3rd person’ perspective.
Remembering that we all are co-experiencing Life, that we all go through hardships, and that we are to find Compassion as well as Empathy in our Journey of building ‘Hard’ ‘Proper’ Resilience.
We all pioneer our own individualistic life, and so we must learn to see each individualistic life as it FULLY might be from different perspectives, we must learn to see situations from all angles, to see that; YOU. is another version of ME.
Thank you for Reading, I hope this has helped.!